If you’re like me, since my 40s and 50s, change is everywhere in my life.
Change is hard – adjusting to a new normal with teens, parents and relationships not to mention our bodies.
Change is a struggle – trying to change old behaviors or add new ones.
Our brains don’t like it. Our survival brain see change as a threat. It wants us to be efficient and stay in the cave where it’s safe. Also, we are wired to seek pleasure and avoid pain at all costs. Change means trying things that are new – and our brains find that, uncomfortable.
So with change, comes tension.
And some ambivalence.
But, how we THINK about change will determine whether we embrace it or not.
So, how can we think about change in a way that is useful?
One great way is to ask ourselves some better questions.
For example, instead of asking:
How will my life be different?
Why is this so hard?
Why am I unable to do this?
What will I do now?
Why did this have to happen?
Try asking yourself:
How can my life be better?
How can I adopt a new habit that is fun?
How can I stop struggling without pain?
How can I laugh a lot today?
How can I make myself a priority today so I have something left to give others?
How can I make my future more exciting than my past?
How can I find joy?
How can I make choices that benefit me and my family?
When you ask the question….do you like the answer? Is it empowering? If so, keep it. If not, keep asking.
When it comes to change, your brain just wants to be told what to think.
The amazing thing is that you have the power to direct it, on purpose.
If you want to learn to think on purpose, you have to think about what you’re thinking about!
I’m here to help.
xo
Peg